Love: Acceptance and Return!

During my sophomore year at Atlantis State college, 2008-2009?

When I'm "on the prowl" for a guy I think it would be smart to rememeber this, since, I usually don't.

--> LOOKING for someone doesn't mean I'm looking for someone who could love me. That's not what's important, and it's certainly not the point-- but it's what I usually do. This gives the impression that I'm shy. The best way to be outgoing about his isn't to "BE" confident, since you can't change yourself that easily.

So here's a better way to do it-- and to be more outgoing altogether-- don't stand there, thinking internally and judging people's personalities, actions, and appearances-- and wondering how they'd relate to you/yourself. Instead, making it your job to get to get to know, love/befriend the people around you. And when it comes to guuys, instead of thinking, "Could he like me? Appreciate me? Love me?" you should be thinking "Could I like him? Appreciate him? Love him?" Not only will this eliminate selfishness, it gives you more confidence. That may seem like an odd combination, but it's the truth. I can explain it better this way: when I say confidence, I mean LACK of self-conscious feelings-- an absence of the constant voice relentlessly whispering insecurities. Focusing your thoughts outward, socially-- to the people around you-- keeps most thoughts of yourself at bay.