Confrontation and Solution!!

I figured out why I have all these arguments with my mom. I mean, it's something I knew before, but I think I've clarified it a little better now. I wrote it down as soon as I thought of it, right there after I talked (and finished arguing, haha...) with my mom, and I even told her what I'd written. To some people, like my friend Alex, my decision about this could be simplified even more by just moving out of my parent's house. However, that would lead to an ending where I've run away, instead of an actual solution... that's why I'm happier with it like this.

(Moving out would be smart and more mature, perhaps, but I don't know if it's the best thing in the long run of my life to simply pull away from my mother, who I haven't been able to get along with because of our high emotions and stubbornness. I think a SOLUTION is better.)

Here's what I wrote!

THIS is really simple. When me and my mom have confrontations, they progress because one of us doesn't give into the other. Under normal circumstances, I'd argue that she should consider what I have to say, just as often as I consider what SHE has to say, like "give and take". However, this isn't a "teamwork" or "roommate" situation, or a "democracy", it's a family. Or kind of like a hierarchy, like in the military, where you have to listen to the top authority no matter what you think, even if you're sure you're right.

The reason this is the problem is because I have to consider that my pride is interfering with my acceptance of my leader's authority. Also, treating my leader (mom) as if she shouldn't be in charge is RUDE, HURTFUL, and INCORRECT. The job is difficult enough on it's own; I need to stop trying to argue with the authority, which is already in it's right place.

I haven't been so nice to her about this in the past, and although I've caused problems, she's retaliated in ways that hurt me too. So I'm not going to be completely horrible to myself by beating myself up, because I feel terrible anyway. But I WILL change.

In the context of other people's lives, this is just an idea that can help by aiding people to realize that sometimes, you have to listen to the authority simply because that's what they are, not because they're right. I think that if authorities didn't exist, it would be hard for people to be unified about something. Eventually, agreement means submission or at least "agreeing to disagree" on SOMEONE's part, unless you ONLY want to hang out with people who share ALL your beliefs. It's a form of respect, kind of.