I had a good realization today.
You know my post Standing Up for Myself - BEING ME? Those were some good ideas I had. I've got to believe in myself more, and listen to myself, REALLY-- more than what others say.
(My parents influence me a lot, they're pretty harsh, and my mommy is a bit over-advice-ful. I always listen SO well that my head loses any personal thoughts and opinions of my own.)
Well? Today I said "I have to just keep going."
Dumb, right? Well, I don't keep going usually. Because of something that caused me to feel unmotivated, I stop my projects and tasks and take long breaks, wasting time because I don't have a goal, and so I don't know what to do next. Basically, I let people discourage me all the time! Or things discourage me, or situations, or feelings I have.
(Even though I KNOW it's my own job to deal with bad stuff that happens to me, if I blame MYSELF for sad feelings, instead of the situation, or bad luck, or other people, I end up getting all loser-ish. I quit being loser-ish whenever I get a little MAD about being being a "victim" :-)
Traditions
Another good improvement I've made is to create "traditions" (THANK YOU TEXTFUGU). For me, that's basically a daily habit, at a certain time or after another specific activity, and in the same (comfortable) place every day. And I always do it every day, not "I'm going to_____" or "I have to_____" or "I probably will _____" but "I do _____". The things I do are:
1. prayer, weighing myself (WII FIT!! yeah) breakfast, devotional on my couch
2. exercise
those are the "traditions" I've gotten down pretty solidly so far. I need to work on some more (piano, japanese, and sleep) but these are the first priorities at least.
Anyway, keep going. Keep in mind things you want to do. Instead of thinking about everything at once, just pick something that takes you toward your overall goal (mine is losing weight, getting a job and learning music and japanese). So I have to keep going, not stop because I feel worried about something dumb.
Sounds like an obvious thing!
Well, it's NOT :)
haha~
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